Even though it has been over a year since I last posted, not a lot has changed. Well I guess that isn't totally true. Elijah has changed a ton. He is growing up so dang fast. He talks so good and is so smart. The other night I was giving him kisses good night and I went in for more and he put his hand up to my face and says, "no more kisses mom, not till Sunday". We are working on potty training. Ugh! He does good half the time. I just can't wait until it is over. Sang and I agree, he is the light of our lives.
In November we did a FET (frozen Embryo Transfer) with our 2 frozen embryo's. It was unsuccessful. I have been having a hard time because I would be due this month had it worked. I know that we will have another child when the time is right, but it is so hard being patient and not knowing when that time is. It has been 13 years since my infertility struggles began and I am just ready fkr it to be over,to have my family complete and move on to stress over just my role as mom. I am unconditionally grateful for Elijah in my life but with knowing that our family is incomplete, I have a void in my life still. I have a hole in my heart that i am anxious to fill.
Anyways, we are saving our money and looking at options. There is a less invasive IVf called mini stim IVF or just mini IVF that is less medication to produce less eggs which is supposed to make the eggs you do produce better quality. It is also half the cost of traditional IVF. I just barely started reading about it so I still have a lot of research to do on it and I need to see from the very few IVF clinics which one's will do it.
Well that is all from the Ngo house hold tonight.
Wednesday, August 7, 2013
This Last Year
Wednesday, December 26, 2012
Monday, May 7, 2012
Wednesday, December 21, 2011
My Pleasure, My Guilt
I feel the need to just blab tonight about some of the feelings that I have had and am having. I have a feeling this will be all over the place but to be honest I am interested to see where this goes.
SO... Before having Elijah I had watched a few episodes of the show "18 kids and counting" which shortly became "19 kids and counting". I always thought,"holey crap they are CRAZY!!" I didn't understand why any one would want that many kids. Well, I remember having the thought in the hospital right after I delivered my precious miracle, and they laid him on my chest, "this is why!" I could get very addicted to that. I was blessed with an almost perfect pregnancy, would have been perfect if I didn't bleed for almost 10 weeks in the first and second trimesters and also having the uti that made me throw up the 1 time the whole pregnancy. And even with my 21 hour labor and almost 31/2 hours of pushing, I had the most amazing experience with it all. I felt without a shadow of a doubt that if I could I would do it 18..19...maybe 20 (or more) (wink wink) times in a heart beat. It is the after the hospital stuff that I think there is no way I could do. I just don't know what I am doing half the time and I am not always the most patient person out there to be able to handle that many kids.
Well, a few months after having him I was asked by a friend if they think since I had a baby if I will be able to have another one. There is no way to know that yet. We do have two frozen embryo's so we will get the chance to try again. Everyone's body is different so who knows if it will take again. Plus who knows if they will make it through the thaw. To be honest I truly hope and pray that I will be able to experience it all again. This is where the guilt comes in. My pleasure is loving that I got to experience pregnancy and delivery and being a mother despite feeling inadequate. The guilt, feeling once is not enough, I want more. My sister-in-law hasn't been able to have kids, and I know that there are tons of women that will never be able to experience what I was blessed to experience. Which I was one of them for a long while. So how can I be so selfish?! I used to pray that I could get just one chance to experience it. Well, I got my chance, and I am honored and humbled and feel extremely blessed. These feelings are very frustrating and draining. I feel like I am having a constant battle with my heart and my head and whatever else is involved.
I was talking to one of my co-workers about faith, and being able to accept Heavenly Fathers plan. I told her that I have never wanted a single child family. 1, I want Elijah to have at least one sibling, 2, I want to have another baby. I know that Heavenly Father has a plan for me and my family, I just pray that if it is for our family to be the size it is now, that I can accept it and not look back. I don't want this to sound like I don't appreciate Elijah, that couldn't be farther from the truth. You can ask anyone who talks to me on a regular basis. He is almost all I talk about. You would think that no mother has ever seen their adorable baby do such cute things.
Well, there it is. I feel like I just let go of a secret that I have been holding onto for almost a year now. I guess the next year or two will be interesting to see what may (or may not) come.
Thanks for listening (reading) any of you that even look at my blog anymore let alone read all the way down here. ha!
Sunday, December 18, 2011
THE FRIDGE
Thursday, October 20, 2011
A VIDEO
Wednesday, September 28, 2011
ALREADY OUTDATED UPDATE
A video of him walking with the help of a little activity table was supposed to go here but for some reason it wont upload. BOOO!
Friday, July 8, 2011
Swimming and Fun
Tuesday, May 31, 2011
Family Bonding
Monday, May 16, 2011
Pillow Tummy Time
He is such an amazing baby. I was feeding him the other night and was listening to a song that was touching and it made me shed a few tears. Elijah stopped eating so I looked down at him and he was looking at me with an expression of concern on his face and he got his pouty lip sticking out and it looked like he was about to cry. It made me laugh, it was so cute. Quickly his pouty lip was gone and a look of confusion appeared. He was trying to figure out if he was supposed to laugh or cry with me. I have seen toddlers do this but never a baby his age, I loved it.
He loves it when we sing to him. He smiles and laughs. Now that I think of it I don't think he laughs at Sang, just me. Guess he already has an ear for good singing and knows it isn't me with that talent.
He has given us several good belly laughs but never when the camera is near. Buy the time I get back with the camera what ever was funny isn't anymore. Naturally!
Oh, on May first Sang blessed Elijah. We were so busy we both forgot about getting pictures. Horrible parents I know. But it was a beautiful blessing and you could feel the spirit so strong and you could just hear the love Sang has for his boy. I was definitely a very proud wife and momma.
Well my handsome boy wants to play so off I go. I'm so blessed!
Thursday, April 28, 2011
MY MR. ADORABLE JR.
Friday, April 22, 2011
PLEASE HELP!!!!
We are entering Elijah into a local "Cutest Baby" contest and want opinions on what photo to enter. Please go to:
http://mpimages.smugmug.com/Children/Elijah-Nga/16699964_8rj5SW
and let us know which # pic or pics you think we should enter. (we can only enter one)
Elijah is growing up so fast and every day he is more awake and giggles and talks more and more. He had his 2 month well child visit almost 2 weeks ago and he weighed in at 11lbs 10oz (55%) and was 221/2 in long (49%) The dr had him laying on the table and was checking him out she had him grab her fingers and he started pulling to sit up so she helped him a little and he stood all the way up. I loved seeing the look of shock on her face and she says, "ok Mr. Over achiever. You don't have to grow up this fast." Almost every one that holds him makes a comment on how strong he is.
He has discovered his right arm/hand. He stares at it with a look of fascination and confusion. It is so dang cute. My favorite is when he is waking up and I go to get him and he just starts smiling and giggling at me. I really hope he keeps being this cute when he wakes up. So much better than screaming.
Sang is such an awesome daddy. He helps me out so much and loves holding and playing with his boy. I can't imagine my life without my two men in my life. Looking back on what things I had blogged about a year ago I still can't believe this is my life, this is my reality. This last year has been just amazing. We have been blessed with so many supportive friends and family members.
Saturday, April 9, 2011
Wednesday, April 6, 2011
Our Happy Boy
Wednesday, March 30, 2011
2 WEEK PHOTO SHOOT
OUR GOOD FRIEND AMY TOOK THESE PICTURES WHEN ELIJAH WAS 2 WEEKS OLD. OUR FRIEND MALEAH MADE THE HATS AND BOOTIES AND THE BLUE AND BROWN OUTFIT. WE HAVE SUCH TALENTED FRIENDS AND I AM SO GLAD TO BE ABLE TO USE THEIR TALENTS FOR OUR BENEFIT, HA!
HE IS GROWING UP SO FAST. HE IS ALREADY LOOSING THE NEW BORN LOOKS AND GETTING HIS OWN BABY LOOK. (DOES THAT MAKE SENSE?)
HE HAS ALREADY ROLLED OVER 4 TIMES, THE FIRST TIME HE WAS JUST 4 WEEKS OLD. HE HAS BEEN SLEEPING SO GOOD AT NIGHT AND ONLY GETS UP ONCE SOMETIMES TWICE TO EAT. IT IS SO NICE THAT HE HAS FIGURED OUT DAY AND NIGHT. I KNOW WE AREN'T OUT OF THE WOODS YET BUT WE HAVE DEFIANTLY MADE BIG PROGRESS THIS LAST WEEK. HE LAUGHS AND SMILE SO MUCH WHEN HE IS AWAKE (AND SLEEPING) AND HE COO'S OFTEN.
THE OTHER DAY I WAS FEEDING HIM AND WAS READING OUT LOUD THE LESSON ON PRAYER FROM THE GOSPEL PRINCIPLES MANUAL AND IT CAME TO THE QUESTION "WHY DO WE PRAY?' AFTER READING THAT OUT LOUD I LOOKED DOWN AND HE WAS STARING AT ME AND HE PULLED OFF AND COOED TWICE THEN STARTED EATING AGAIN. IT WAS SO CUTE THAT HE WANTED TO ANSWER MY QUESTION FOR ME.
ANOTHER TIME SANG WAS HOLDING HIM AND I WAS TALKING TO HIM IN ENGLISH AND SANG WAS TALKING TO HIM IN VIETNAMESE AND I ASKED HIM "DOES ANYTHING DADDY SAYIN MAKING SENSE BECAUSE IT JUST SOUNDS LIKE JUBBERISH TO ME." HE THOUGHT THAT WAS SO FUNNY AND WAS SMILING AND LAUGHING.
WE HAVE BEEN GIVING HIM A BATH JUST ABOUT EVERY NIGHT AROUND 9 OR 9:30. IT HAS REALLY SEEMED TO HELP HIM GET ONTO THE DAY AND NIGHT SCHEDULE AND WE HAVE NOTICED THAT HE JUST LOVES IT. LAST NIGHT HE WAS VERY TIRED AND WE WERE GOING TO JUST PUT HIM TO SLEEP AND SKIP THE BATH, HE WAS NOT HAVING ANY OF THAT. HE WOULDN'T SLEEP AND WAS JUST CRYING SO WE GAVE HIM HIS BATH WHICH CALMED HIM RIGHT DOWN, AND AFTER HE ATE AND FELL RIGHT TO SLEEP (FOR 6 HOURS, I MIGHT ADD WHICH HAS BEEN THE LONGEST SO FAR, WHOOT WHOOT)
WORDS CAN'T EXPRESS HOW GRATEFUL WE FEEL TO BE ABLE TO HAVE THIS LITTLE MIRACLE IN OUR LIVES. WE HAVE HAD SUCH AN AMAZINGLY BLESSED YEAR.
Friday, March 18, 2011
Chubby Cheekies
Wednesday, March 9, 2011
Elijah playing with toys
Thursday, March 3, 2011
Cali
I was looking through all my posts and the drafts and I guess I had started this but never finished. So here it is. Back in Oct we went to Cali with Sang's parents to visit his sister and her family. We had a great time and did some shopping in China Town and went and watched his niece play in a few soccer games and just hung around the house. It was really nice and relaxing. I was about 23ish weeks pregnant.
Sunday, February 20, 2011
Labor Day 2-13-11
(Us in between contractions)
At 2:00am on the morning of Sunday Feb 13, 2011 I woke up to do my usual early morning potty break. As I usually did I had a contraction, I guess my full bladder usually set them off in early morning hours. I did my business and went back to bed. About 7 minutes later I had another contraction, about 7 minutes later another contraction, about 7 minutes later,another.